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They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts. \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0—<\/span><\/i>Acts of the Apostles, 2:46<\/span><\/p>\n

Last week, I had to buy a dining room table. It is the first time I\u2019ve ever done so and to be honest, I was loathing the very idea of it. I am not the home decorating type, and for the vast majority of my life most of my furnishings have consisted of what my parents gave me or what I could cobble together from thrift store clearance sales. <\/span><\/p>\n

But my wife was insistent that in our new home we were going to have a room into which we would want to invite people into. A place where people could be hosted and fed. The space needed a table worthy of the welcome. As we sat staring into the empty dining room and thinking about the idea, I was surprised how the conversation about a piece of furniture became philosophical so quickly.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cOkay \u2026 so what kind of table do you want?\u201d I said.<\/span><\/p>\n

My wife responded, \u201cWell first, it has to be sturdy. It has to be something solid and well built. We\u2019re going to be feeding people here for decades. We\u2019re going to feed our grandchildren here. So it needs to be made to last.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cOkay \u2026\u201d I said, closing the Ikea.com tab on my browser, \u201cwhat else?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cIt needs to be big. We\u2019re going to have people over for holidays with everyone welcome to bring as many guests as they want. We need to have as many seats as possible.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWell,\u201d I thought out loud, \u201cif we want so many seats, then what if instead of chairs we had benches? Then people can always scoot together to make more room, or spread out if there\u2019s no need.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI like that idea \u2026 for one side at least. But some of our friends and relatives are old. They won\u2019t be comfortable on a bench<\/span> \u2013 <\/span>they\u2019ll need back support. I want everyone to be comfortable. And some of our friends are a little heavier<\/span> \u2013 <\/span>they might feel self-conscious on a bench. Better we have at least a number of chairs.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

The conversation went on for a while longer, but at every turn I realized that for my wife this was about far more than a table. It was about warmth and welcoming, about fellowship and feeding friends. She wanted to serve, and to accommodate the needs of all. She had joy and welcoming in mind, but it was going to take a table to help those things unfold.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Excited to serve hospitality around the new table (image courtesy of Steven Cottam).<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

I realized through this conversation that far too often my love of people is an abstract, theoretical love. I frequently think about what it will take to get \u201cmore people around the table\u201d in the sense of making my ministries and my work more participatory, more democratic. But rarely do I make it as simple as just making sure everyone is literally invited to be around an actual table. My desire for hospitality rarely comes down to the details of making sure everyone has a chair that fits and enough elbow room. However, these mundane details are in many ways the actual work of hospitality.<\/span><\/p>\n

Dorothy Day<\/strong><\/a> once wrote in The Catholic Worker newspaper, \u201cPaperwork, cleaning the house, dealing with the innumerable visitors who come all through the day, answering the phone, keeping patience and acting intelligently, which is to find some meaning in all that happens \u2013 these things, too, are the works of peace.\u201d No great work on behalf of the Kingdom is ever accomplished without a lot of little tasks along the way. As they say of the devil, the Gospel is in the details.<\/span><\/p>\n

So our table is on the way. It\u2019s a huge, farmhouse-style table that measures over 8 feet long when all is said and done, and it\u2019s nearly going to burst the seams of the room. Next comes extending invitations to guests, both those we now count as friends and those we hope will become friends through the sharing of food, time, and stories. And this requires not only good intentions but also actually cooking and cleaning, holding doors and taking coats. And I hope through it all I can learn what my wife already intuitively understands \u2013 that if I want to do something as lofty as fill hearts with gladness, then I must be willing to do something as basic as fill cups with coffee.<\/span><\/p>\n

About the Rabble Rouser<\/a>:<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Steven-Cottam\"Steven Cottam<\/strong><\/a> serves as youth minister at Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic Church. He lives in the Church Hill neighborhood of Richmond, Virginia, with his lovely wife, adorable daughter and very strange dog. He is an active member of Common Change<\/a>, a group which seeks to gather and distribute tithe money in a relational and collaborative way. He has been friends with Sister Julia ever since they were students, coworkers, and cooking club members together at Catholic Theological Union in Chicago. His interests and passions include Aikido, gardening, coffee, and becoming a Jedi Master.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts. \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0—Acts of the Apostles, 2:46 Last week, I had to buy a dining room table. It is the first time I\u2019ve ever done so and to be honest,...","protected":false},"author":3935050,"featured_media":7366,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","filesize_raw":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"_kad_post_classname":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[698755598,698755604],"tags":[4501015,694216,1028193,622043,406,58980,6406728,51014,39932,3017453,4879719,30351],"series":[698756626],"class_list":["post-7362","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-christian-family-life","category-simple-living","tag-breaking-bread","tag-christian-family","tag-dining-room-table","tag-dorothy-day","tag-family","tag-fellowship","tag-gospel-living","tag-guests","tag-hospitality","tag-open-home","tag-radical-hospitality","tag-service","series-messy-jesus-business"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/customwordpresssites.com\/mjb\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/daughter-with-broke-bread-sign-by-steven-cottam.jpg","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/customwordpresssites.com\/mjb\/wp-content\/plugins\/seriously-simple-podcasting\/assets\/images\/no-album-art.png","download_link":"","player_link":"","audio_player":false,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"dark","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"stitcher":{"key":"stitcher","url":"","label":"Stitcher","class":"stitcher","icon":"stitcher.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/customwordpresssites.com\/mjb\/feed\/podcast\/messy-jesus-business","embedCode":"

More than a table<\/a><\/blockquote>